Going through a divorce in California can feel like the end of the world. Studies show that individuals going through a divorce or the loss of a loved one show high levels of depression. This may impact your work performance, ability to socialize, or how you care for children.

If you find yourself in this space, know that professional divorce counselling can help you move out of that negative space and recover from the separation. Book a FREE Divorce Recovery Consult to start divorce therapy with Dr. Invia today!.

Divorce recovery therapy provides a structured way to start healing after the painful and difficult ending of divorce. 

With a focus on processing grief and minimizing depressive symptoms, as well as rebuilding one's sense of self or identity, at San Jose Counseling we often employ the following models:

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): identifies and works to change damaging thought processes.
  
  
• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): helps individuals process powerful feelings in a regulated environment.
  
  
• The Gottman Method: provides guidance on how couples can sort through conflict constructively ( adapted for divorce).
  
  
• Mindfulness: meditation methods aimed to help manage current distress and build calm. 
  
  All of these will help you develop a real plan to move forward from the challenging divorce process in California.
  

At San Jose Counseling, we address specific issues like anger, anxiety, and grief during separation. Divorce and separation therapy helps by:

• Rebuilding self-worth after loss
• Developing practical coping skills
• Reducing conflict with ex-partners
• Setting clearer personal boundaries
• Breaking repetitive negative patterns
• Building healthier future relationships
• Improving co-parenting communication

This focused work helps build resilience during California’s demanding legal processes and after the ordeal is over.

The primary difference between these two is your overall goal. In couples counseling, the main focus is generally on healing and strengthening your relationship, therefore you will need to heal your trust and communication in order to avoid separation.

With Divorce therapy, you have ended or will end your relationship and need help with the healing process of separation and getting on with your life.

You’ll only need marriage counseling when you and your partner want to work on issues in the relationship to ultimately prevent you two from separating. 

Your sessions with a counsellor will focus on communication breakdowns, analysing current arguments, bridging emotional distance, recovering from infidelity, and more.

Divorce counseling becomes necessary when the relationship is ending or has ended. This includes:

1. Pre-Divorce: Helps you understand the impact of divorce, walks you through dealing with the difficult emotions during the separation, and prepares you mentally for the end of your marriage.
   
   
2. During Divorce: This part supports you through the legal and emotional toll of divorce, strategies for managing conflict with your ex-spouse, and guidance for times where you feel uncertain. 
   
   
3. Post-Divorce: At this point, you’re moving on from the divorce, working through the loss and grief, rebuilding your self-esteem, and learning how to live a single person after years of marriage.
   
   
4. When Children Are Involved: Teaches parents how to manage their emotions so that they can put children first, reduce conflicts, increase cooperation, and communicate positively about disciplinary decisions while protecting children from parental conflict.

Check out California-specific techniques for the Best and Less Stressful Divorce Option in California by booking a FREE Divorce consultation with Dina Haddad – a  California divorce support specialist.

Picture someone feeling so confused, overwhelmed, and angry, on the verge of full-on rage after their divorce. You should find clarity and peace of mind after going through our therapeutic process at San Jose counseling.

It all starts with a FREE Divorce Recovery Consult where we hear your story, ask questions, and better know how to handle your unique situation. After words, we move on to:

• Emotional Recovery: Reprocessing grief, loss, and anger while building a safe place for you to heal and grow.
  
  
• Goals: Identify clear goals and some tangible next steps for your recovery.
  
  
• Coping Tools: Develop positive coping skills necessary to manage other stresses and conflicts in your life.

Most clients attend weekly 50-minute sessions for 3-6 months and adjust their routine based on the progress they make.

Choosing the right therapist involves a focus on credentials and fit. Look for licensed professionals who also have training in the type of transition you faced, like Dr. Invia, who is both a LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist) and a CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist), supported by our team of professionals at San Jose Counseling.

Online/virtual therapy offers flexibility for busy people in California, removes the stress of driving in traffic, and allows for privacy. This allows you to stay connected even during tough times when you might prefer isolation.

You need a therapist who can relate to your unique situation and help you find your feet again with compassion. Ask these questions to see if they are right for you:

• "How do you approach co-parenting challenges?" 
• "Can you describe your virtual session structure?"
• "What’s your experience with high-conflict divorce cases?"
• "Do you specialize in areas like trauma (e.g betrayal trauma) or addiction recovery?" 

Choosing someone who understands California’s unique pressures ensures that the support you receive is both personal and relevant to your location.

Divorce can be a challenging experience for men and can lead to social isolation and pressure to downplay emotional pain.

Our Men's Divorce Support Group at San Jose Counseling is a confidential support group tailored to men experiencing separation or divorce. 

This is a three-month recovery group, but you can opt to participate for one, two, or three months. This group aims to help participants in:

• Understanding what happened
• Detaching with love and respect
• Establishing boundaries
• Overcoming trauma
• Improving self-care

Contact Us on 408-920-1730 Or become a member by emailing us on [email protected] to become a member.

While you should never neglect professional support, you can try the following approaches to heal from divorce at home:

• Before filing: Journal to identify core needs versus fears.
  
  
• During proceedings: Practice 10-minute daily mindfulness for stress spikes.
  
  
• After finalization: Schedule brief "worry windows" to contain anxious thoughts.

However, if you experience difficulty sleeping, emotional outbursts, struggle completing daily tasks, and constant co parenting conflicts for two weeks or longer, seek professional help. You can try virtual sessions for extra flexibility if you struggle to leave home during this period. Start virtual divorce therapy with Dr. Invia.

Divorce recovery therapy is one of the best options for handling the emotional part of a divorce and getting back on your feet. 

Yes, your family members and friends can provide support during this time, but they may not be enough, depending on the gravity of your situation. Contact Dr. Invia for a free consultation call and learn what divorce recovery therapy can do for you!

You’ll need a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) because they address the main elements surrounding divorce: conflict, interpersonal interactions, and grief. 

However, before booking a session, you need to confirm that the therapist is licensed in California and has experience with divorce cases like yours.

The time it takes to feel better depends entirely on you, but most people have seen improvements within 3-6 months of continuous therapy. Some complicated ones can take 1-2 years, and this is usually for relationships lasting many years, had a lot of conflict, or the individual has a very thin support system.

You can also call divorce counseling “Divorce Adjustment Counseling" or “Post-Divorce Recovery Counseling”. Different clinicians have their preferred terms, but they all carry the same theme, which is to help you become functional again.