More than 900 million people (nearly 1 in every 8 people) in 2019 were living with a mental disorder such as anxiety and depressive disorders, which are  the most common ones according to  the World Health Organization (WHO). 

The other mental disorders are post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), schizophrenia, eating disorder, and neurodevelopmental disorder. 

If your spouse, partner, friend, or any other loved one has a mental illness, it will impact your relationship. A healthy relationship relies on communication, trust, stability,, and empathy, which can be challenging to maintain with someone experiencing mental illness. 

could not be possible with a person having a mental illness. 

Walking away from a beloved family member in their time of need can have consequences. However, it is not a reason to risk your own mental and physical well-being due to their mental disorder. In fact,  you should explore relevant options and a well-rounded approach before deciding to leave your loved one on their own. 

Schedule your free consultation with Dr. Invia A. Betjoseph, who has helped  adults, and couples live a healthy life by treating mental health conditions. 

Dr. Betjoseph is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist trained in EMDR, specializing in sex addictions, couples therapy, and trauma. 

This article discusses common signs of mental illness, six signs to consider before walking away from your loved one, and solutions to help your partner recover from mental illness.  

Mental illness can impact a person's behavior and daily life, as well as affect the caregiver. The signs of mental illness can vary depending on the condition and require a proper diagnosis from a reputable mental health professional.  

The following are the signs of mental illness mentioned in the book “50 Signs of Mental Illness” by James Whitney Hicks: 

1. Anger
2. Anxiety Disorder 
3. Anti-Social Behavior
4. Trauma
5. Stress 
6. Speech Difficulties 
7. Sloppiness 
8. Sleep Problems 
9. Sexual Preoccupations 
10. Sexual Performance Problems 
11. Self-Mutilation 
12. Self-Esteem Issues 
13. Religious Preoccupation
14. Eating disorders
15. Avoidance 
16. Body Image Problems 
17. Compulsions 
18. Confusion 
19. Cravings 
20. Deceitfulness 
21. Delusions 
22. Denial 
23. Depression
24. Disassociation 
25. Euphoria 
26. Fatigue 
27. Fears 
28. Flashbacks 
29. Grandiosity 
30. Grief
31. Hallucinations
32. Histrionics
33. Hyperactivity 
34. Identity Confusion 
35. Impulsiveness
36. Intoxication
37. Jealousy
38. Learning Difficulties 
39. Mania 
40. Memory Loss
41. Mood Swings 
42. Movement Issues 
43. Nonsense
44. Obsessions 
45. Oddness 
46. Panic 
47. Paranoia
48. Pain 
49. Psychosis 
50. Suicidal Thoughts

Note: A thorough diagnosis by a therapist is essential before identifying a mental health condition in an individual. 

The following are 6 signs indicating the need to reassess your relationship with your mentally ill spouse or relative. 

Physically Abusive Relationship 

If the mentally ill person poses a threat to your safety, you should consider cutting ties with them, as a relationship with a history of abuse can jeopardize your well-being.

Physical abuse should never be present in a healthy relationship with your spouse or siblings. It is vital to set boundaries and seek help from a seasoned clinician to deal with any underlying mental health issues if violence is taking place.

The following negative behaviors are potential reasons to seek safety or leave the relationship:

• Breaking your possessions 
• Physical Beatings 
• Biting and scratching  
• Harming children 
• Throwing things at you
• Locking you in the room
• Abandoning you at different locations

Emotional and Mental Abuse

Emotional abuse can have profound and lasting effects on your mental, emotional, and psychological well-being. 

It's crucial to prioritize your emotional health and seriously consider whether remaining in an abusive situation is in your best interest.

Choosing to protect yourself from emotional abuse is not selfish; it's an act of self-preservation and self-respect. Your emotional well-being should be your top priority. 

The long-term consequences of emotional abuse can be severe, often leading to diminished self-esteem, a fractured sense of identity, and increased risk of depression and anxiety.

Ask yourself: Can you truly thrive in a relationship with someone who consistently disrespects you? 

It's important to recognize that you deserve better than to live with a person who invades your personal boundaries and resents your successes. Remember, a healthy relationship should support your growth, not stifle it.

Emotional and mental abuse can involve any of the following things: 

1. Insulting you all the time
2. Taunting you regarding your insecurities 
3. Using blaming and abusive language
4. Criticizing you and being vindictive over trivial matters
5. Placing unreasonable expectations on you
6. Manipulating and coercing you
7. Gaslighting and stonewalling

Healthy relationships thrive on mutual empathy, which serves as the cornerstone of emotional support between you and your loved one. 

Conversely, a lack of empathy can lead to feelings of isolation and emptiness. In such situations, it's crucial to reassess the relationship, considering whether to continue together or seek solutions through individual or family therapy.

Schedule your free consultation with Dr. Invia and find ways to repair your relationship and the mental health of your loved one. 

You cannot change someone who is unwilling to change themselves. If your spouse resists your efforts to address their mental disorder through therapy or counseling, it may be time to set boundaries and/or consider walking away for a period of time to protect your own well-being. 

They might be avoiding counseling due to fear. In such cases, try to educate them about the benefits. According to the American Psychiatric Association, recent research shows that over 75% of people report satisfaction with their counseling sessions.

Are you experiencing a sense of stagnation in your personal or professional life due to the time and energy devoted to caring for a mentally ill loved one?

 This situation may be hindering your goals and career progress. It's important not to compromise your own well-being indefinitely.

Consider two paths forward: actively addressing their mental health issues or finding a way to distance yourself from the situation. Remember, a healthy relationship should be built on mutual support and benefit both parties involved.

If you suspect your spouse has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or exhibits strong narcissistic traits, there are several steps you can take to protect yourself and manage the situation. 

The following are the common 9 signs you may see in your narcissistic husband or wife. 

1. Sense of Entitlement

2. Manipulative Behavior

3. Need for Admiration

4. Lack of Empathy

5. Arrogance

6. Grandiosity

7. Interpersonal Exploitativeness

8. Preoccupation with Success

9. Envy

It is very difficult to balance caring for a loved one with mental health issues and exercising self-care. However, there are successful ways to uphold both your relationship, as well as your loved one without undermining either of them.

Below are some ways to help repair boundaries, improve your relationship, and address mental health concerns:

• Professional Support
• Online Therapy
• Couples or Individual Counseling
• EMDR or other trauma therapy
• Support Networks
• Friends, Family, and Caregivers